Losing a friend

I use this blog as one of my outlets, I’m know everyone experiences similar or varying complexities in their lives also, so here’s one of my recents…

I got a text out of the blue from someone I considered a good friend today, she said:

“I would appreciate it if you left my family alone, Many thanks. Name here”

I couldn’t believe it!  I was totally shocked and didnt see that coming at all?!?  I have genuinely racked my brain and searched my soul to try to figure out what I could have possibly done to cause such a kick reaction from a so called friend…?  I couldn’t find an answer, except that I have been in conversations with her husband recently about having piano lessons (all above board, no funny business, completely professional etc), and I’ve concluded that she possibly didn’t like this…?  To my understanding there has been illness and confusion in the family this year, so I think it could be a lash out on me because of that…? It is sad, because it does genuinely hurt, I am sad that I have lost a friend – especially when I don’t know why?

…This situation does press on old childhood wounds, I used to get bullied, excluded and lose friendships without explanation then too, I’ve often wondered why some people just reject me for no apparent reason?  It makes me feel really insecure and I question myself all the time: do they like me?  Is this person a true friend?  Will this person abandon me also?  I’m forever over checking myself, I’m never sure if someone is a genuine friend or if they are hating me behind me back – sometimes I just feel like I must be a horrible person, and that people are repelled by me.  I experience people pushing me away and just seeming like that just don’t want me around…?

…Anyway I’m going too deep, letting my mind run away into places that are harmful and not helpful…my true thought about myself is that I am loving, caring, kind, generous, considerate and overall a sincerely beautiful person, with may gifts, talents and pearls to offer in life and to anyone who choses to do life with me…I’m not a horrible person!  Its their loss, I wish people could be more honest and transparent about their feelings, thoughts, concerns etc – oh well, I cant let it tear me down.  I’ve lost about an hour pondering over this scenario and I’m now gonna lay it to rest…

My prayer…Father heal this situation, shed light on the areas of misunderstanding and bring reconciliation with your loving peace.

…I wish them well anyway, and really pray that one day that we can be reconciled.  Life is too short to hold grudges and keep bad vibes…

Amen ❤ x

 

…After the rant

So I really let it all out the other day, I really needed to vent!  I actually thought about whether I wanted to be so open on this blog, but to be honest I have spent so many years hiding and pretending that I have it all together – WHEN I DONT, and its just too tiring and in the end I’m the only one suffering – and FOR WHAT?  TO SAVE FACT?!?!?  I’m getting to the point where I actually don’t care what people think of me anymore.  No offence, but many people are just fickle, here 1 day gone the next, love you 1 day hate and despise you the next, so why should I care what they think???  Half the time I don’t think they even KNOW deep down what they think or believe anyway!!!  I am realising that there are so many messed up people desperately trying to hide their mess and in fear that others will find out – AND SO WHAT IF THEY DO?  What’s the worst that can happen anyway?  For me I’ve already been embarrassed, ridiculed, out casted, rejected, bullied, emotionally and mentally abused anyway (I could go on)…So what, people find out and maybe gossip about it for a bit, they will soon get bored and find another hot topic to flap about…another mini rant lol!!

…I was at church today and the message was so encouraging AND so timely.  After my rant, I prayed and just simply asked God to help me.  I’m at a point in my life where I realise that the truth is that some things are just out of my control, it is what it is and I cant change it.  I am trying to just let go (very hard for me, I’m a bit of a control freak!!) pray about things and leave it in Gods capable hands and trust in His wisdom and timing – EVEN though it is soooo hard and hurts at times!  In my experience of doing this, I’ve realised that it is the best thing I can do and the outcome is always good, even though it takes a while to happen.  With these facts it encourages me to keep praying (through the good times and the bad) and trusting God to work things out for my good.

…Anyway, back to church…now I could have chosen to stay in bed, visit another church, go to a later service or something else, but I really felt I needed to go the early service this morning.  I promise you (anyone reading), that the message couldn’t have been more spot on and specific to my situation than it was.  It spoke to me deeply and I felt SO encouraged to keep going.  The message was about holding on, not giving up, enduring and staying commited.  Choosing to focus on the good and positive things around you rather dwelling on the past and negativity (which I have to admit, I can get caught in the negative cycle and talk myself into misery if I’m not careful – hence my bitch rant!!)

I made sure I took notes during the message so that I could read over it and continue to encourage myself while I’m going through this dark patch and beyond (although, I am feeling much more encouraged and brighter todayJ).  I’ve noted below some of the key passages of scripture that the speaker used as reference points today, and I will keep reading these and praying, because I am in desperate need for change in my being that only God can give.

Scriptures of encouragement:

And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. 11 To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen – 1Pet 5:10 NIV

Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear;
then your righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the Lord will be your rear guard.
Then you will call, and the Lord will answer; you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I – Isaiah 58:8-9 NIV

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 3:13-14 NIV

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things Philippians 4:8 NIV

So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you Romans 12:1-2 (The Message version)

I am smiling again 🙂 xx

Self Esteem

Today I’ve just started reading a book about self esteem and it’s got me thinking about my self esteem and the highs and lows I’ve experienced.  Its been an ongoing uphill battle at times, but I am thankful that I am on the up nowadays.  I think I can equate it to a combination of things (personal therapy, my counselling training, my faith in God, self acceptance etc).

I have come to the conclusion now that the foundation of my self

esteem comes from understanding and accepting myself

(which is an ongoing process) and most importantly…

…what I believe about myself.


Also in my profession as a counsellor and personal development trainer, I have witnessed personally from my client work how the thoughts and beliefs that run through ones mind (from past negative, difficult and painful experiences), can so powerfully overtake a person and literally have the power to break you.

However, when a person begins the journey into self awareness and starts to see the effects of their experiences in their thought life, with this insight they can choose to begin the process of replacing the old unhelpful beliefs with new life giving truthful beliefs – this is a process.  In my truthful and honest opinion, my experience has shown me that only God can supernaturally change a person, restore and heal the deep hurts that life has bruised us with.  Then the word (Jesus/The Bible) continues the ongoing washing, healing and restoration process.

Simply put: WHAT YOU BELIEVER ABOUT YOURSELF IS WHAT WILL MANIFEST AS YOUR REALITY.

So, simply put again: in order to challenge and change your thoughts, beliefs, perceptions etc.  The mind must be challenged about the negative, old and unhelpful thoughts/beliefs and replaced/renewed with new positive, inspiring, empowering, life giving thoughts/beliefs etc.

I believe that only Gods word is the true inspiration and has the transforming power that we need to renew our minds and our lives to live peaceful, purposeful and fulfilled lives.

Life is a journey, an ongoing process and we are always learning…


BUT one must start their journey with a true and honest intention to seek answers to their quetions and solutions for their problems etc…and be willing to put the work in – THEN the exciting process of change, growth and development etc begins!

I have come to the stage in my journey that I fully, whole heartedly and completely rely solely on every word that God gives (either through the bible or spiritual revelation).

The word of God is my: strength, hope, inspiration, encouragement, comfort, wisdom, motivation, empowerment, guide.  It is the reflection I need in the areas of my life that needs growth, development and maturity.

I simply cannot function in this life without God and I NEED to spend as much time as I can in His presence (reading the word, meditating, reflecting, praying, worshipping with music, being in church and with like minded believers).

I have tried MANY things to manage and cope with life but honestly, nothing comes close to a true relationship, utter and complete dependence on God.
I have to be honest though, I do have my down days when I will think various negative thoughts like:

“What’s the point?” 

“Am I really getting anywhere?” 

“When will I see the answer to the prayers I’ve prayed long ago?”

……And the classic:

“Its not fair, why me?” or even “Why not me – when will it be my turn?”

But I realise that sometimes its just the enemy taunting me and trying to upset me, steal my joy, plant seeds of doubt etc, and other times its just me allowing the old thoughts and negative thoughts (based on past experiences) replay in my mind.  At these times, I may have a little sulk, shed some tears, take a rest and listen to some inspiring music, find something inspiring to read, pray and/or I’ll channel these thoughts and feelings into writing a song or journalling etc.  Every day and situation is different, so I just go with the flow of what is right for that moment.

However God is without a doubt my lifeline and I am learning to trust Him daily.

X x

Wisdom for the ladies xx

“A girls heart should be so lost in God, that the guy has to seek Wisdom from God in order to find it

Delight yourself also in the LORD, And He shall give you the desires of your heart – Psalm 37:4

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life – Proverbs 4:23

Bless you Xx

A Message from God: Part 1

(Re-posted, due to accidental deleting!)

He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds – Psalm 147:3

During my devotional this morning I was praying about what I would write today.

I’ve got a million stories in my head to write, but I’m trusting God to lead me.  This week I have felt inspired to concentrate on the Psalms, so as I was reading Psalm 147, the above verse jumped out at me.  Immediately a memory came back to me about a phone call I had just over a year ago.  The phone call was from a lady from my old church and I could not remember the last time I had seen or spoken to her – it had been a while to say the least.  She said God had told her to call me And give me a Message.

He said:

He needed me to get into a church because there were some things He wanted to work out in me, but  He needed me to be in a place of corporate worship.

On reflection I realise that there is power when believers come together!  When 2 more are gathered in Jesus name, God is present and miracles can take place!

 

“For where two or three gather together as my followers, I am there among them” – Matthew 18:19.

I hadn’t been to church in months and I had no intention of going anytime soon.  I was angry and hurting, disgusted with church and people in it.  I felt downtrodden, let down, mistreated, unloved and discarded. I sinking into a depression and I knew I needed something because I felt so lost and confused, so it was quite an ‘uh mmmm’ moment for me!!!  Could this really be a word from God?

I didn’t act on this immediately, I decided anything God needed to do or say he could do anywhere – He had just proved that anyway by getting a random woman to call me and give me a message out of the blue!

I didn’t trust anyone and I certainly was not going back to my old church for more pain – no way!!  I was so vulnerable, wounded and scarred from a combination of events there that I just couldn’t bear to put myself through any more unnecessary torture.  No, if God wanted me in church, I wasn’t going anywhere until it sure that I would be safe.

One of my closest and longest friends invited me to church with her 1 Sunday and I tagged along because I didn’t have anything else to do, so I thought why not!  It was a beautiful experience.  The worship was soothing and uplifting, it was medicine to my spirit and soul.  The message was uplifting and inspiring, I felt at ease there and I knew it was somewhere I would come again.  I also bumped into some long lost friends, which was a pleasant surprise, so overall I actually had a good time!  The church was advertising the start of an Alpha course in the New Year.  I remembered the message I had received from God from that lady, so I figured I would give it a try – what was the worst that could happen?  I was already at rock bottom anyway, so I guessed it wouldn’t do much more harm!

I left the church that day feeling quite hopeful; maybe God was right getting back into church?  I would find out…look out for part 2 coming soon…

O LORD, you have examined my heart and know everything about me – Psalm 139:1

…God is so good, I asked Him to show me what to write in my blog today and as I got into His word, this blog pretty much wrote itself!  I had no intention of writing my blog this morning (I just wrote my last one a few hours ago in the early hours of the morning!)  In fact MY plan was to develop some of the songs I am working on for my music course I am doing – but God knows best:)  I’m off to get ready for a vocal coaching session- another story ill tell you about soon I’m sure:)!

By for now!

xx

WOW! God is awesome!

Someone broke into my house, turned on all the lights, went upstairs rummaged through my drawers and jewellery and then left!

I came home to all of my doors wide open at around 11.30pm…

…NOTHING TAKEN!!!! NOTHING WAS  TAKEN!!!!  NOT ONE THING WAS MISSING!!!

This is a miracle!  There were so many little items that they could have picked up as they ran through the house like my iPod, SatNav, Laptops – but all remained untouched!  The only annoying thing is, I now have to fork out for a new pane of glass for my door and I’ll probably get a burgular alarm now, but I am so grateful that I am safe along with all of my belongings 🙂

God is amazing! Forever grateful for Gods love and protection – Praises!!! XXX

 Psalm 91:2,11, 14,15

This I declare about the LORD:
He alone is my refuge, my place of safety;
he is my God, and I trust him.

x x x

 The LORD says, “I will rescue those who love me.
I will protect those who trust in my name.

x x x

For he will order his angels
to protect you wherever you go

x x x
When they call on me, I will answer;
I will be with them in trouble.
I will rescue and honor them.

x x x

Amen

Happy Valentines Day – God Loves YOU XX

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.  John 3:16




For by that one offering he forever made perfect those who are being made holy.  
Hebrews 10:14
 
This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 1John 4:9
For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.  Ephesians 2:10
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!
xxX Bless Xxx

Prayer works!

My friend EV and I have recently started praying together, and just keeping each other accountable in our lives.  I have a few girlfriends that I know I can pray with about things, and it feels so good to know they have my back.

I got a text today from EV updating me about her court hearing on Friday (God knows why she waited 3 days to tell me!!!)  Anyway,  there was some sort of misunderstanding about fine she had with her car, she had moved and wasn’t getting the letters about it, so the fine had escalated out of hand and had resulted in a summons.  We spoke in the morning before she went to court and we prayed together over the phone.

Here is what she sent today:

Hey girl just giving you an update and praise report…thank you so much for praying with me!  Before I got there the prosecutor asked me a couple questions and was like I’m gonna speak to the judge and came back and said were not going to proceed with ur case😃He also said it was my lucky day and smiled!  I went in and he repeated what he had just told me and the judge looked at me and smiled and said you can walk out of here with a clean licence take care. I didn’t have to say a word.. The two barristers either side of the judge, the clerk and the prosecutor smiled again as I walked out ! God is GOOD! No 6 points no £700.00 fine xxxx

Praise God!

This is no coincidence, how often do people get let off fines???!!?!?!

I’ll leave it to you to ponder…

but …

…As for me and my household, we will serve the LORD Joshua 24;15

Bless xx

My Vocal Coaching Sessions

So this is week 2 of my intermediate level vocal coaching sessions (last week was my first week, we covered the basics such as how the voice works, vocal warm ups and breathing).

We started this weeks session, looking at how best to take care of our vocal chords.

This session has really deepened my awareness about the unhelpful things I’ve been doing!
For example clearing my throat!  This is  rough treatment for the larynx, and should be avoided.
Instead the following was suggested:

  • A very very gentle cough, mouth closed powered by the diaphragm (very wordy I know) is a helpful alternative.
  • keeping my throat lubricated with warm water (add honey, preferably manuka for added nourishment for the throat) – something I already do, woohoo!!

My coach also mentioned, protecting my neck/throat with a scarf, as this protects the voice.

We went through lots of breathing and vocal warm-up exercises, and more tips for looking after the voice. So I’ve got lots to be getting in with!
I’ve picked up some bad habits over the years I’ve been singing – 1 being not warming up my voice before I sing!

I realise now how seriously important it is for me to start looking after my voice IMMEDIATELY, before I do any damage!
The good news is that I’ve learned some good breathing practices from yoga which is useful for singing, so I’m already a few steps ahead:)

I am so excited that I am finally getting a chance to train my voice and am looking forward to being able to control my voice and do all the creative things I want to do with my voice!

I’ve got a youth worship outreach DJ night that I am the lead vocalist for in a few weeks (my first vocal event of the year!), and I’m on my way for a planning meeting as I write this.  I’ll be making sure I am prepared as much as possible, rehearsals are coming up soon (do doubt my vocal coaching will come in handy!!)

It’s gonna be such an amazing night, I’m so excited to see what God will do!

I am also looking forward to doing a massive blog about it too!!

Bye for now:)

Xxx
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Daily Devotions: Day 4

It’s amazing how you can read something one day, and then read it again and get a totally new, deeper meaning. I’ve heard this said many times, but I am really experiencing this today!20120207-214028.jpg

I am reading the Joseph Prince, ‘Destined to Reign’ devotional at the moment and I re-read yesterday’s devotional today.

I was really taken aback by what I had missed yesterday, but also glad for the new insight.
This jumped out at be, like – BAM!!!!

“The good news is not preached to tell you what is wrong with you, it is preached to tell you what is right with you, because of Jesus’ work at Calvary, inspite of what is wrong with you!”
– Joseph Prince

I love reading these devotionals. I feel such a relief, reassurance and acceptance from God. I feel so supported and loved, in the belief that God really DOES love me and is on my side and has nothing but good intentions for me:)

Xx